a bit better

[deathboy]

Well, that's a relief. Liz got back to me and didn't seem to be mad, just sad that I felt I couldn't stay.

I'd noticed that before I went, her feller and Kerry had disappeared, and assumed something was awry. Seems he noticed I was uncomfortable and nipped out to give me a bit of room - which was considerate - just that by then, I'd already reached the point where I knew I couldn't stick around.

At least folks aren't angry with one-another / me. I sent a little more of an explanation and my apologies. Maybe next time, we'll do things better.

I wish I wasn't so emotional sometimes. It'd be good to be able to just dial it down once in a while (without medication, I mean). I guess I'm not exploding like I used to when I was younger, at least, but it'd be good to be able to ride things like this out without turning into a big agitated ball of hurt.

Balls.

Comments

[darkcryst.livejournal.com]

Oh well that's a really great sign actually. Sounds like they (including Kerry) are actually being sensitive to your feelings.

Which is a HUGE step really.

Heh, if you're anything like me when you are pissed off and trying not to show it the locals are running for the hills wondering when the volcano is going to blow... so well done ;)

Nothing wrong with being emotional either - don't buy into the macho BS. Half the problem with us guys is that we're trained to believe that being emotional is wrong, and that ironically leads to emotional problems! ;)

Sounds like a casual chat with Liz's fella might actually be a really good idea. Clear the air and all that - after all you don't seem to have a problem with him, probably good to let him know that.

[kohai.livejournal.com]

ditto

[misterfallen.livejournal.com]

I've always found taking pride in the fact that you've managed to remain calm helps keep you that way. It's something positive to focus on. And a nice ego boost, too. :)

[kohai.livejournal.com]

Hey, stop beating yourself up. I mean it! You're allowed to have feelings so quit fucking punching yourself in the nuts when they rear up!! *poke!!!*

I'm really happy that Liz and you were able to discuss it a bit. I'm even happier that Liz' guy recognized that you were in a bad place and tried to give you some breathing space. It's good to see that there are still decent human beings left in this world of mouthbreathing fuckheads. I hope, in time, you guys are all able to be on the same page and will laugh at this bad day together.

[lee-chaos.livejournal.com]

I think you've done alright there, actually. Not sure I'd have done such a good job based on past history.

Praise where it's due, mate. you survived it a stronger man.

[azekeil.livejournal.com]

Dude, this is perfectly fucking reasonable. You felt like essentially your heart had been ripped out and put on a plate in front of you so you could watch it slowly still its beating. I admire the way you handled it.

You even seem to get that other people don't necessarily understand what sorts of things will upset you (although if they'd thought about it a bit more they might have done - but then again who says they should?). Just chalk it down to experience, and try again. It'll become easier, and they'll appreciate the effort you're making - and of course Corben will come to appreciate it too.

Hang in there man. *hugs*

[yuitsu.livejournal.com]

If you could handle it, maybe suggest that you, Liz, and her bloke take Corben out for the day to the zoo or something? I guess Liz has probably told him you found it hard for the various reasons in your big post.

Seeing your post I can see a bit how my mum felt after dad left and me and my brother were going off to spend the weekend with him and his (poisonous, evil cow) girlfriend.

[redcountess]

What they all said!

[sistercarrion.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't have dealt with that situation as calmly as you. You wouldn't be human if you weren't emotional over something like this.

xx

[my-window-seat.livejournal.com]

Jumped up Jesus in a Chariot Driven Sidecar.

Just read the in-depth description of what you went through, and you really, really, REALLY need to realize something, mister:

You are a goddamn Super Hero.

Really.

As someone who didn't have the balls to do what you are doing right now, and as a result am only now getting to know my ADULT daughter, I can say with authority that you are an AWESOME person for stepping up, despite the very understandable anguish this entails.

I know what you're going through. I do. And unlike me, *you* are doing the right thing.

My kid has paid, and paid dearly, for the fact that I didn't do what you are doing. The fact that she's still forgiven me for it and has welcomed me into her life now speaks volumes to HER character, not mine.

You are putting Corben first. That makes you a real parent, and a real man and father.

You have my sincere respect and support for always, Scott.

Now do yourself a favor - recognize your own strength and appreciate yourself for it.

[exsanguinated.livejournal.com]

sounds like you handled things well enough, both there and afterwards.

[bridd.livejournal.com]

I don't know if I could have done any better were I in the same situation dude. I think you did well to even go.

I guess everyone doesn't quite know how to interact yet or what the boundaries/guides to things are. There isn't a manual for these sort of things and if there were it'd probably be written in ingrish with bits missing anyway.

I think it's pretty understandable you felt how you did, the main thing is that you didn't explode on anyone there or anything like that, you were able to talk about it fairly openly afterwards and that's got to put things in a better position moving forwards. It's really early days still and you can't expect things to be A1-groovy straight off, but keeping communication open and honest has got to help things be better in future.

Emotional is a good thing dude, holding it in would only cause you more probs. Chucking big bloody man-hugs at you mate.

[deathboy.livejournal.com]

thankya, geezer :)

[squishymoo.livejournal.com]

if i had a kid and saw my ex-partner's new partner wandering off with it, i would have gone nuclear on their ass. scientific fact.